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Look, I know the world of online dating is completely new to you. I understand. Trust me, I know. When I started doing it, it was all about who I thought might be interested in me. Do you like what I'm saying? It took me a while to get over that. I still sometimes ask myself, "But what if it isn't me? What if it's someone else?" It's a good question, and one that only those afraid of dating can answer. But that's a different post. Anyway, as you get into the swing of things, I want to make sure you know a few dos and don'ts.

Do: Focus on finding the right one

I know it's a cliche, but the only thing that matters in your dating life is finding the right one. If you focus on finding the right one, then you'll be happier and more willing to open yourself up to be with the right person. If you just focus on yourself and your comfort level, then you'll never get out of your shell and you'll never find the best match for you.

Don't: Expect the best

I know that, as a lot of single people looking for love, we tend to give up at the first sign of nothing happening. We look into the dating pool and we see nothing but creeps, jerks, and maybe even some good-looking people, but we expect the best. This isn't to say we should remain passive and expect nothing in return for making a great effort. But we should remain realistic.

Don't: Be ashamed

Yes, online dating is still a brand new thing, but with a little planning and research, you can find a number of great quality dates. We're all going to make mistakes in our dating lives, but when those mistakes are not followed by horrendous verbal diarrhea or public masturbation, then they're just mistakes. My advice: Don't let that shame you.

Don't: Pay for sex

I'll be honest, I've done this too. I know people who've done this too. But when you really think about it, you're paying someone for sex. Dating is a wonderful new way to broaden your social horizons. It's a good way to become comfortable with what you believe to be normal society. But at the end of the day, at best, you're paying someone for sexual pleasure. You could just say you like them and ask them to the prom or
We'll help you navigate the process (and, if applicable, your parents) and give you some pointers along the way.

How to Date (and Thwart) the First Dates That Make You Broke, Alone, and Unpopular

Give Your First Date a Realistic Timeline

If your schedule allows it, try to find an event in which the following will be true:

The event is low-key and informal.

The event is outside your social sphere (for example, an outdoor festival or college party).

The event will not involve alcohol.

The event is in a large group of people you don't know.

Here's your timeline. You'll meet the person (or people) in one of the first three steps, and then spend the rest of the date either casually socializing or doing non-ambitious activities.

Step 1: First Date Icebreaker

Most First Dates are horror stories. If you've ever seen one, chances are someone on the date hasn't been wearing deodorant, or has some equally horrifying (and very attractive) flaw. You're the new person they've just met. It's important that, from the get-go, you find some common ground to bond over. Find something that makes you both laugh: your favorite team, or even your favorite kind of snail is great. You want to have a laugh together, and that's the essence of friendship.

It's also important to remember that you're making a date with someone new, and that they, by definition, don't have any reason to know you well. So give them a chance. And take advantage of it. You're going to spend the next 2-5 hours with this person, so you may as well make the most of it.

Step 2: Casual Date

This will be your chance to get to know your date. Plus, you get to get to know the person you're going to spend the next two to five years with. Not to mention how often in your life you get to talk about The One (even if that person's name is Fanny).

If the person you met in the icebreaker goes well, you'll be making the second step of the date. Once you leave the party, give yourself an extra half hour to get from point A to point B. Try to get there at least 10 minutes before you need to be there, but it's better to show up a

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